Hi! I’m Lily.

I am a Seattle-based Licensed Mental Health Counselor Associate (LMHCA), with a passion for helping folks navigate the worlds of relationships, connection, intimacy, and eroticism. I hold an M.A. in Counseling Psychology from Bastyr University, an M.A. in Women, Gender, Spirituality, and Social Justice from California Institute of Integral Studies, and a B.A. in Sociology from Wesleyan University.

As a lifelong writer, I spent my early career writing about gender, body image, and self-love. As I deepened into pursuing therapy, I became passionate about not just loving our bodies but also fully inhabiting them. This led me to the world of somatics— rediscovering how to feel our bodies in a world that often disconnects us from them.

I believe we bring our whole selves to therapy— our feeling bodies and our social identities. With my background in sociology and social justice, I bring a systemic lens to my therapeutic work. This means that we will consider your identity, culture, and socialization, and how these have played a role in your emotional and relational life. I work with folks across the gender and sexuality spectrums, specializing in the kink, consensual non-monogamy, and LGBTQIA2S+ communities.

Therapy is a deeply relational, human encounter. In my work with clients, I have been continually honored to witness each person’s unique journey toward greater self-awareness, wholeness, and aliveness.

Outside of therapy, I am a musician, dancer, yin yoga teacher, and a total bookworm.

Why “eroticism”?

I center the word “eroticism” in my practice because it represents not only our individual embodiment, sensuality, and connection to ourselves, but also our ability to live a full, vibrant, expansive and empowered life.

Eroticism comes from the Greek root eros, meaning both love and life-force. It’s not only about sex, but about anything that gives us “this quality of aliveness, of vibrancy, of vitality, of renewal,” according to psychotherapist Esther Perel. To reclaim that sense of eros in our lives is to inhabit ourselves fully, to empower ourselves, to claim agency and our right to fully live.

Additionally, this lens is political. The writer Audre Lorde, in her classic 1984 essay “The Uses of the Erotic,” writes that connecting to the erotic— the creative, embodied life-force within us— connects us to our own power. This is especially important for marginalized groups and bodies who have been systemically denied access to care, rest, and quality sex education. I believe that reclaiming our inherent right to eroticism is political as well as therapeutic.

Read more about my therapeutic approach here.

Trainings & Certifications

  • Certificate in Sex Therapy, California Institute of Integral Studies

  • Internal Family Systems Levels 1 & 2

  • Developmental Model of Couples Therapy Level 1

  • Gottman Method Couples Therapy Level 1

  • Currently under AASECT Supervision with Jacqueline Mendez, LMFT, CST

  • RYT-200 Yoga Teacher

  • Yin Yoga Teacher Training Level 1